Familiar Stranger

Late Lonely Nights

When your thoughts gain the best of you

Your phone illuminates 

Curiosity strikes

"Hey Stranger" 

The oh so Familiar Stranger

Tis the season that things get lonely La la La lA lA

As summer bbq and nights of frolic simmer down these texts have started to appear in my phone. From whom who may wonder? Well I like to refer to them as familiar strangers....

Familiar Stranger: A person from your past that views your life as a revolving door visiting when it is of convince for them. A person who may have had a strong connection with but things never amounted to the L O V E. You know who they are, what they like, who they hang with  but can never gage their true intentions. Never really see them to their core.

Back Story:

As we all get to know me know that I've been on the receiving and sending end of message like the above. When life got dull I use to scroll through my phone book seeing just whose life I wanted to temporarily interrupt. It's the game we play in this day and age to ultimately see if we are still "wanted". To see if we still have a hold on that certain being. A year or two  ago there was so many familiar strangers on my so called "roster" until I realized the turmoil they were actually causing.

Turmoil:

You wait a hour before responding to the text just show that your life doesn't halt they moment they show you attention. You give them a hard time letting them know all their flaws and messes they caused in the past. As the days go by the texts turn into calls and calls turn into friendly meet ups and you're right back within their grasp. You see these familiar strangers are nicotine so addictive and so harmful. I settled with many familiar strangers because they were my hurt comfort zone. Crazy right. I was familiar with their pattern familiar with the hurt they caused so when came again it was as damaging. What I failed to realize was these people that I allowed to come back time and time again came with the same baggage and games. AT first glance they may seem to have "changed" but their tricks simply evolved. I wasted so much time with these familiar strangers that they were the ones blocking me from meeting the perfect stranger. Cliche but true.

How to Curve a Familiar Stranger:

1. Save all numbers they may contact you from so curiosity won't get the best of you.

2. If you have the strength block them immediately if not address the situation.

3. Inform them that life is good and you hope all is well with them but you prefer to not communicate anymore.

4. Find your journal and write the date and time down that they text you. Write down a promise to yourself. A promise that you'll always put your self first.

These steps may sound silly, but trust that I fight the same battles as you. The battle to put myself first and not allow these familiar strangers to come and come again. So ladies and gents get your curve game strong. 

XOXO

Kolleh